Self-obsessed English kids among unhappiest in the world

bullying_a_kid_1600_wht_904910 – 12 year old kids in England feel worse about going to school every day than almost every other country in the world

They felt worse than children in Algeria, Ethiopia and Romania  – according to the Good Childhood Report 2015 – a research project carried out on 53,000 children by the Children’s Society and the University of York, .

Only children in Germany, Estonia andSouth Korea are more unhappy.

The results are attributed to bullying and peer pressure to look good.

More than a third of English pupils said they had been physically bullied in the previous month and more than half said they had experienced low-level bullying by being excluded from activities by other children or being taunted or belittled.

English children were also particularly dissatisfied with their appearance with girls twice as unhappy as boys about how they looked. Only South Korea came below England in how girls felt happy about their bodies and appearance compared with the rest of the world (in this case 15 countries but not including America, Russia or Japan). Girls in Columbia were happiest with their bodies.

Social media was felt to be exacerbating the problems as teenagers compare themselves with perfect images they see online.

I think Facebook and similar social networking sites, the success of reality TV shows where talentless but good-looking people get rich, the rise of selfies and the increase in narcissistic behaviour all plays its part.

You can probably add the ease of access to pornography with boys having unrealistic expectations of girls, sexting and the over-sexualisation of young girls into the mix too.

The Children’s Society produced a report in 2013 on how miserable older teenagers were  so this is nothing new, just a younger age group.

Bullying and poor body image are known to contribute to poor mental health among young people and the director of the charity Young Minds thought the results showed that adults in Britain were neglecting their children. “We just cannot ignore that in Britain so many children are suffering. These findings must not be dismissed as simply an inevitable part of growing up. Children in England are worryingly falling a long way behind in their level of happiness in comparison to other countries and action must be taken to address this

Maybe some parents do neglect their children but there is also plenty of evidence of indulgent adults “over parenting” their kids and not helping them prepare for adult life.

In fact the survey showed that English children ranked about half-way in the group of 15 countries when it came to friendships and family relationships.

The Children’s Society want it to become a legal requirement for schools to provide counselling as in Wales and Northern Ireland. They also want schools to do more to tackle bullying and promote exercise.

They said “Schools should be a safe haven, not a battleground. Despite a long period of austerity we are one of the richest nations in the world yet the happiness of our children is at rock bottom. They are unhappy at school and are struggling with their appearance and self-confidence

Certainly bullying is unacceptable and should be stamped out but when schoolchildren have no respect for their teachers and there are no real punishments available it’s an uphill task. Fortunately there is evidence that bullying may not be a totally negative experience for everybody.

The National Union of Teachers blames the “exam factory culture” which doesn’t help children to thrive and marks some out as failures early on in their education.

The Department for Education said  schools should be “happy, safe and supportive places” for children. “Bullying of any kind is unacceptable and all schools must have measures in place to tackle it. That is why we providing more than £7 million to help schools tackle bullying head on

We are also promoting greater use of counselling in schools, improving teaching about mental health, and supporting joint working between mental health services and schools. This will ensure children will thrive inside and out of the classroom

FYI There are over 8 million children in almost 24,500 schools in England. £7 million pounds is peanutsless than £300 per school! Primary school heads are paid an average of £52,000 a year and secondary heads an average of £73,000 a year but many earn a lot more. £300 wouldn’t pay a teacher or counsellor for a week.

Virtual girlfriend to keep parents happy

Mike the Psych's Blog

sending_love_envelope_1600_wht_10935A new online service promises to set you up with an invisible boyfriend or invisible girlfriend. You can use it to keep nagging parents off your back, hide your sexuality, wind up your friends about a new mystery lover, or just practise your texting skills if you are out of practice flirting.

You choose a personality type, create a back story of how you met, and choose a portrait, and you’ve created a romantic partner.

Then for about $25 a month your new “lover” sends you 100 texts (written by humans), ten voicemails and one postcard.

The company is based in Missouri and only provides the service in the USA and Canada at present. Can’t help feeling Facebook has missed a trick here – after all they specialise in virtual friends!

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Put on your high heel sneakers…

mbDNrygjwyOx8CopACAoAHAand the world is your oyster. Marilyn Monroe once said that women owed to a lot to whoever invented them and she was right.

  • If women drop something in the street they are 50% more likely to have a man retrieve it if they are wearing high heels rather than flat shoes.
  • If they are charity muggers they are twice as likely to get women to stop.
  • If they are looking to get picked up in a bar they only have to wait half as long as women wearing other kinds of shoes.

But women know this already, it doesn’t take scientists to tell them this. But they have. Scientists at the Universite de Bretagne-Sud wanted to know whether or not French men were helpful towards 19-year old women in tight tops and high heels. Wow, that’s an original hypothesis to test! (how do I get a grant to research this kind of stuff?)

In one experiment the women were asked to stop people in the street to answer a short survey about gender equality. When they were wearing flat shoes 40% of men responded, when they were wearing medium heels 60% responded, and when they wore high heels 80% of men responded.

For the women who were stopped it made no difference what the women asking the questions wore.

In a second experiment a woman appeared to accidentally drop a glove while walking in front of a pedestrian. If the pedestrian was female the glove was returned about 50% of the time regardless of what kind of shoes the glove wearer had. For male pedestrians however they returned the glove 60% of the time when the woman was wearing flat shoes and 95% of the time when she was wearing high heels. (Note that men were more likely to return the glove whatever kind of shoes the woman was wearing).

In a third experiment a 19-year old woman wearing a skirt and an off-the-shoulder tight-fitting top sat in a bar on her own with her legs crossed. The time before a man approached her offering overtures like “Hello I’ve never seen you in here before. or who are you waiting for?” was measured.

She was instructed to say “Hello I’m waiting for someone who will probably arrive in one or two minutes”. If she was wearing heels it took only 7 minutes before she was approached; if wearing flat shoes it took twice as long.

So scientists have been able to quantify something we all probably suspected and it adds to the body of knowledge about the power of women and published it in the Archives of Sexual Behaviour.

FYI If you’re a waitress you should be aware that blonde waitresses get more tips, wearing red lipstick gets you more tips, and touching the person briefly as you give them the bill gets you more tips.

And women with tattoos are considered more promiscuous (take note Cheryl of the new double-barrelled name who claims to be a singer) and men ask women more intimate questions of women when they are wearing a red shirt. Oh, and this will come as a really big surprise – big-busted hitch-hikers get lifts more easily, but only from men.

And when it comes to women in uniforms, they’re not averse to wearing high heels, at least in Eastern Europe (and Italy)

Admit it, we men are so easily led stray by a pretty face, large breasts and high heels!




Traditional Tattoos #1


So I haven’t been able to post due to a broken laptop….but it’s all fixed!
As an aspiring tattoo artist I’ve been looking into all the different school of tattoo and a personal favorite of mine has to be traditional. Like they say “theres no school like the old school!”  When you think of traditional tattoos you think, Roses, swallows, daggers,eagles and so on….so here’s some awesome art and tattoo in the traditional style:

x_56e204dcJust a few. The first electric machine (to become world recognized unlike Thomas Edison’s first idea of an engraving machine) was made by Samuel O’Reilly in 1891

o-reilly_patentVery similar to the one we use today over 100 years later…. Pretty cool! I’ll come back to tattooing machines in a later post. So like i said i favour the traditional style of tattooing and try to recreate it in my own work. This is part unfinished painting i have been working on:

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Discussion from Episode 2…

Makeup makes such a difference!

The Overstand Podcast

At the beginning of the show, I told everyone about the story of Orville Lee Wollard III, who was convicted of aggravated assault and sentenced to 20-years in prison for shooting his gun twice at the wall to scare of a young man who had attacked his daughter and himself. Here is the story: Orville Lee Wollard III

John had also mentioned a man by the name of Richard A. Clarke. Richard is the former National Coordinator for Security, Infrastructure Protection, and Counter-terrorism for the United States. He has written many interesting books, the one we discussed in episode 2 is called, Against All Enemies

In episode 2 – Time In Space, we got to talking about women and how different they look with and without makeup on. We specifically spoke about Carly Rae Jepsen, Rihanna, and Kim Kardashian. The before and after pictures of them are displayed below; you…

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